Sunday, October 14, 2018

THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED MUHAMMAD

REFUTATIONS 1 - SPEAKING ABOUT MUHAMMAD (PBUH)

Some things Non Muslims read that are easily understood, but which they easily misunderstand. I blame their hatred of Islam, and also their cultural bias.
I'll use explanations couched in simple language; I'm not trying to impress ppl with English, flowery language or double speak. I will merely show how non-Muslims barely scratch the surface of ISLAMIC TRADITIONS, and why rarely do they try to see the truth that is just beneath the surface. In short, why they are looking into Islam out of hate not love.

1. That prophet Muhammad raped women, is a terribly ugly thing to say, and couldn't be further from the truth.
He did not rape his women, wives, or slave girls.
Ppl will say, how do you know... I will get to that very briefly. But such ppl don't ever stop themselves from speculations and reveal evil intentions when they speak about our Holy Prophet.
They do this because they want to stop others from coming to Islam (What would be their true intention other than that). Do they want to stop Muslims from marrying girls, forced marriage or raping women? Do they care about us?
A recent comment I read suggests otherwise, and I know more and more they have the most vile and evil of motives. That individual wrote, let them "keep marrying 9 year olds" so that Islam will be "exposed".
The direct quote, found in the comments section of one (Ex Muslim) apostate's recent upload about Islam, merely proves what I have been saying, that these haters are not interested in improving the lives of women and girls in Muslim majority countries (who also profess belief in Islam, therefore are their "natural born enemies", according to their own logic)! On the contrary, comments on these channels prove that the uploaders of the videos under which such hate speech is found, are really Islamophobes. People like Marwa, aka MimzyVidz and others say they are NOT Islamophobes, but if they were interested in peace and not causing divisions, they wouldn't permit hate speech in comments!
I said recently, addressing this problem, "put your money where your mouth is." They claim that they don't hate Muslim people, but obviously they have a deep-seated hate of even women and children. Furthermore, don't they accuse us of loving pedophiles and other nonsense... that doesn't sound to me like somebody interested in friendship, or honest discourse, something Marwa and Veedu, her husband, are always on about, lol. 
So we know, it's not even their highest order of business to prevent rape of minors, or even have any caring words and concern for minors!!

On the contrary, they only want to hate and promote the evil idea (and are planting this seed of hate in every mind that reads their words). They promote hate and cause pain to Muslims with their words, (blogs or uploads) because they are themselves far from good people. They are far from peace-loving, generous, or kind hearted!!!
Furthermore, they don't understand what they are reading. Their faculties are blinded by their own malice and lack of critical thinking besides!
That there are more likely than not also many Muslims who promote hate, entertain #hatespeech and use their #freespeech to cause problems between different groups, doesn't justify this hypocrisy by the #atheists and #ExMuslim community. In fact, if they would not promote hate, most of the hate directed at them would also dissipate, and we could have actual conversations - not me personally, because I'm not a person who likes to debate #tbh and prefer to write blogposts and to make videos (another interest of mine which I do to exercise my #freedom and promote peace, which is my real and only aim) While the majority of Muslims don't make videos, they do comment and share videos and posts. I hope they will also begin to answer to hate with more love.

We can't have dawah be all about views and how many subscribers we have! It helps to have drama and more subscribers, but even more important to spread the word, the peaceful message of Islam is honesty, and hard work. We have always had an uphill battle, since the fall of the Islamic Empire, when the world saw the end of the Caliphate. But that doesn't mean Islam is any less true today than it was in 630 AC/CE.
                                                                                   
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My first example is a woman who married the Prophet (PBUH) but was then immediately sent her to her people.
Some non Muslims will argue, maybe she was forced to marry him, like they do with other of the stories of his wives - who they think were either too young, like Aisha RA, or beautiful
like Zaynab bint Jahsh, RA, or nobel, like Saffiya, RA, May Allah be pleased with them. And so on. Also the slave woman, who was a gift to him from a disbelieving ruler at the time.
She was an Egyptian Copt, called Maria.
But you will not hear them complain that the prophet (PBUH) married an old woman, like Sauda, RA, who was a God fearing and excellent Muslim woman - may Allah be pleased with her
and all of the "mothers of the believers". Though she was from an important tribe and respected, too, we rarely hear anything about her from the non Muslims because they don't care about the Prophet's marriages to older women, or women of nobility if they were not also young women, his cousin or a (so- called) 'former slave woman'.

Maria Al Copt is the centre-piece of one apostate's video, which I have avoided until now. In truth, it pains me to watch videos that hate on Islam or the Prophet Muhammad. I only do it so I can refute
their erroneous claims, and to expose their obvious lack of #logic and their extreme hatred and hypocrisy. It's to be noted that like other YouTubers, they upload videos with similar themes at the same time. However, unlike other You Tubers, they will not say anything that is original, EVER!! It is the "same old, same old" - illogical statements, lies, deceit and filth that we read or hear from all the other anti Islam writers, bloggers, vloggers or Youtubers. It's a shame they cannot hear or see. They are intellectually and morally decrepit.

One story is enough to illustrate the character and morals of the prophet, and how his love of Allah is foremost at all times. He was the most God fearing and knew Allah better than anyone, in his own words. Others also knew him to be persevering, patient, kind, generous, manly, honorable and chaste.
He was recently married to a woman of Jauna, a tribe or clan. When she was preparing to go to the Prophet after their marriage contract had already been completed, some women advised her to say some words (they promised her would cause him to like her). This is all we know from the hadith, there's no indication she hated him and did this out of hate, or to avoid being his bride (or consummating the marriage). We only know what is mentionned in the hadith, so we won't try to imagine other scenarios, like the speculation practiced by others who read the texts with less than sincere motivations to learn about Islam.

She was with Muhammad, PBUH, in privacy, when he approached her. Then it was that she said,
"I seek Allah's protection from you". Obviously, this is a situation where she had the choice earlier to refuse marriage to the Prophet PBUH, but she never did; in fact she was eagerly preparing to go to him, and even took the advice of those women... meaning that she wanted to be more desirable to him, PBUH.
Unfortunately for her the advice was wrong, and came from (possibly) ill intentioned women - who knew that the prophet was very true to his Lord - intending to derail her honeymoon plans! They also knew words that would really end it for this poor bride, who was really unfortunate and disappointed. This is why she is known as 'the most disappointed bride!'
It's obvious that she wanted to marry the Prophet, and that she did everything she could do as a woman, to make herself beloved. She prepared herself for her first night of lovemaking, and wanted to be more desirable by repeating the words she was taught, which obviously had the opposite effect. Why did the prophet Muhammad not ask her to take back the words... Why was he not angry and hit her. He must have also been disappointed, but we don't know anything for certain, except the events we read in the hadith, and the end result. She was sent home and given some gifts on her way out.

If Muhammad was really a bad person, he would not have prevented himself from clutching her, and forcing her to bend to his will. But in reality, the words she said have a clear and great meaning and impact upon him. Because he is man of God, of the holiest men of God and would never have wanted to do that. He said," Indeed, it is Allah whose help should be sought"! He had no reservations about sending his new bride away, though it was disappointing to her. And when he bid her farewell, the sudden shock and sadness must have also showed on her face. She must have cried aloud, too! There are greater tragedies in life, the death of parents, or children. But it is indeed something when one's object of love refuses or abandons them, even if it was for a good reason!

2. Some more points to ponder which help us know the intent and motives of women in those days:
A woman liked to marry a strong, or wealthy person. While the prophet was already in his fifties when he married Sauda and Aisha, and married several other women after them... there's no indication he was weak, or had any major illnesses.
There's no reason to believe he didn't live a healthy lifestyle, he was energetic, would walk faster than younger men who were walking with him. This is from the hadiths, again. They said he seemed to walk like he was leaning forward, and his pace was faster than theirs. The pathways he travelled even had the scent of his musk. If someone shook his hand, it left the scent of musk behind. This is no ordinanry person who was swift and easy like the wind and parfumed the corridors and bi-ways with his natural scent. His sweat was like parfume, and he never smelled bad. He also disliked bad smelling things, even garlic and onions.

Other times we read, that he was courageous, and more brave than anyone. He was the first on the scene when there was an alarm! We also read this in the hadiths. When the prophet heard something
outside and went to investigate, by the time others came to also investigate he was riding back on his horse with his sword and reported that evertyhing seemed to be peaceful.
It's said that he had less than twenty gray hairs in his hair and beard when he died.
In his defence, there are women today who marry older men, and it's usually rumoured they do it for money. There is no problem really in marrying for money, as long as the two people are willing to love and respect each other. For a man, the important thing is that his wife doesn't disrespect him or refuse to go to bed with him. If she were to do either of these the marriage would quickly fall apart. That she spends his wealth, asks for lavish gifts and so on, might not even be an issue with many of these wealthy men.

It's only others who always judge people and their intentions that have a problem with women marrying for money. But how many of us complain about how we would like to have more things, to live the 'good life' and live in ease without the need to worry about money. Many people are well off financially, but still they would like to have more of everything they desire in life.
This is the case, despite that we know, even the wealthy ones are not generally the most happy. But this doesn't mean that it's inherently evil to want nice things, or even to marry into wealth.
The wellknown host of Late Night show and comedian, David Letterman, married a woman much younger than him. They even had a young son when he was already in his 70s.
As for health and beauty, it's well known that ppl always mention how the Asian people age very well, but it was even more true of the Prophet, PBUH, and why not.
He was considered the most handsome of his peoople, in fact. Again, plz read hadiths or ask ppl with knowledge. The characteristics, personality, and life of Muhammad, PBUH, are in fact quite well known to all scholars and students of Islam.
It is only the lying 'devils' from among the non believers, and ignorant people (including some Muslims) who never investigate such matters that are both truthful and well known. Despite our knowledge and straightforward words and examples, which are in the thousands or tens of
thousands! and reach everywhere today via the internet and social media, the lies and false arguments still hold sway in many peoples's minds, despite Muslims' collective efforts, and the encouraging words of many honest non Muslims.
The haters say many things that are the complete opposite of the truth, in fact they do it all the time, and they have made it their mission to disparage the Holy Messenger Muhammad, and his
companions, as well as all Muslims - bc they accuse every Muslim man of some evil or other, and even are accusing all Muslims, men and women of accepting evil things which they claim and have no
right. They accuse us of defending pedophilia, but who are the real pedophiles... the western and european ppl are counted as the ones most likely to have this mental disease, who desire young girls or boys and commit sexual crimes and indecency against children, including rape and murder.
Then is Aisha, RA, the youngest wife of the prophet Muhammad. In her own words, she was most happy, and also had a woman's natural jealousy when it came to her husband, the Messenger of Allah.
She knew her status as the wife of the Prophet was her finest honor. It happened that her role was of a counsellor for the women and a fount of knowledge for the Ummah, in her later years.
Most of the discussions centre on her marriage life. Early on, she was the much cherished young wife of Muhammad, may Allah be pleased with her.
She knew that she was preferred above his other women, including her rivals, the other young and comely wives in his households, such as Hafsa, Safiyya, or Juhairiya for example.
A hadith tells that the Muhammad, PBUH, gave an example of his love for her; she was to him preferred above other women as 'tharid', a kind of banquet food or lovely meal in those days, is compared to other foods.
She reportedly said, she wished that she could be bitten by a poisonous pest (so that she could die) when she became so overwhelmed by feelings for him and melancholy, when she was parted from him for some time.
If anyone argues she said those words bc she wanted to die, because she hated the Prophet, PBUH, then they are desperately trying to argue nonsensical things that have no basis in textual evidence at all.
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They often say that Saffiya, another of the wives of Muhammad, may Allah be pleased with her, was forced into marriage, and as a captive had no choice. The proof is in the pudding, or as we know, in the textual evidence, because we have nothing else anymore, apart from the Glorious Quran, by which to investigate the truth of past matters.

Saffiya was from the line of prophet Harun (Aaron). She was a jewess, and also noble. She had heard about the prophet as a young girl, from things said by her father and uncles, all enemies of the holy Prophet. Did she not wonder at this man, who claimed prophethood, while she herself was a descendant of a prophet! It must have stirred her curiousity, to say the least. Did she express any anger or resentment, in any of the hadiths... we don't know anything more or less than what the narrations tell us. She was married. Her husband was killed - people say, without evidence, that she loved him greatly. That's all a matter of speculation, and despite her recent tragedy - the death of a husband and her support, we presume - and her capture after a battle lost by her people - she was not against marrying the Prophet Muhammad after her 'idda' was completed! Allah knows best! 

Some recent comments on Youtube have suggested, as #MimzyVidz does, that Saffiya was raped! This is not only a great blasphemy but disrepects the memory of a noble woman!
It is also very easy to counter argue. In the story, two women are of the captured that were to enter the household of Muhammad, either as slave women or as wives. The companions wondered if Saffiya would be his wife or a slave woman (what the right hand posesses).
When they saw her covered they knew she was Muhammad's wife.

The other woman, who is easily dismissed bc she did not become his slave woman, or his wife either, obviously detested to be with him, or she feared him. Perhaps the Christians or Jews were circling about rumours that he was a tyrant and oppressive to women folk. But this doesnt seem at all likely, considering the very good image the Prophet had. Therefore, its more than not likely that this woman detested to marry him, being an enemy of Islam herself. Because either you loved Islam in those days, hated Islam as an enemy would, or you took a neutral stand and waited to see the outcome, if Islam gained supremacy over the others or not.

I think that the woman hated Islam, was an enemy of Islam, and that she screamed because she hated to be a wife of the prophet. What happened next is telling, he told the people to remove her from his sight, because he did not wish to marry any woman who screamed in his face, and didn't desire marriage or to be a part of his household.

Remember, if she were a normal 7th Century woman, she would have at least considered that it is better to live in the home of the Prophet or leader of the Arabs at the time, than to be the slave woman of another person, who might not posess such wealth or would even be a poor man and less than pleasing to look at. I have already discussed why the people agreed that the Prophet Muhammad was no ordinary man, nor was he detestable to the eyes and why he was so much loved and emulated by his companions and even loved by his enemies!

All this is available to anyone to read if they make the effort.
The prophet never harms any woman, or beats them, and that is certainly true with regards any women in the narrations that we have the ability to research in the hadiths, by Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, and others.

Nor is anyone prevented today from learning what the Muslims know. In fact, if one asks them, they will certainly tell them what the know or what their beliefs are!
                                                                                     
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Briefly I will show how some things are manipulated to appear bad, when in fact there is nothing wrong with what the great Muslims of the past have done, except what has been reportd in teh hadiths, such as when the prophet said, he is free from what Khalid ibn AlWaleed has done, regarding the killing of some people he believed were #apostates or hypocrites, Allah knows best.

IN BRIEF:

- slave women were a test for humans; societies needed to replace the system of slavery with something better and more humane. Islam started to do that and showed the way for others, if they had wanted to emulate the Muslims in this regard. USA didn't for a thousand years after Islam (started to adopt an attitude of freeing slaves and practicing/enforcing better human rights for all people). 
- women could buy their freedom like men.
- women had a choice in who they married, much like women today.
- marriage for love isn't the only type of marriage, even today,
etc.
- a woman could claim she was pregnant, and avoid marriage to her captor or who posessed her at the time. In truth, a Muslim is not permitted to marry or have sexual relations with a married or  pregnant  woman, at least until she has her child, or until she has become clean after one menstrual period, respectively.

Definitely the false accusations that Muhammad or any of his followers had sexual intercourse or , God forbid, raped women the first day they were captured is counter to anything ever taught or anything evident in the religious texts! In other words, these charges against Islam are blatant lies!!!

- a woman who runs away and has sexual relations with other men, must be sold even for a pittance (the price of a hair rope)
- chastity and good manners are required of slaves as of other people. But they are not punished as free men or women are punished for adultery with stoning... this is becasue they are not sometimes permitted to marry who they want, if the master does not permit them to marry.
But there are hadiths which show that women did marry men who were not their master, and they were chaste (not permitted to have affairs, nor could the master ever sleep with them).

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3. The prophet PBUH died of food poisoning that resurfaced and that is what we know from the hadiths. We don't speculate and invent arguments - because that is wrong and also, it is very easy to discover the truth; because millions of people read these hadiths (narrations), athaar (stories which are not hadiths) and other explanations of these. WE KNOW WHAT HAS BEEN SAID ABOUT ALL THESE ISSUES BEFORE. That a Jewish woman tested him, by feeding him poisoned leg of lamb (or shoulder of lamb, I forget which), and that some other of the companions of the prophet even were deathly ill, having eaten from the same meal. THERE IS NO TRUTH TO THE FALSE STATEMENTS ACCUSING AISHA, RA, OR OTHER WIVES OF ATTEMPTING TO KILL THE PROPHET, MAY ALLAH BE PLEASED WITH THEM.
I WONDER SOMETIMES, WHAT THEY WILL MAKE UP NEXT!

NOT ONLY THAT, IT'S LAUGHABLE THAT SOME ATHEISTS AND APOSTATES WROTE IN COMMENTS RECENTLY THAT THEY HOPE YASIR QADHI - LIKE SOME APOSTATES DID OF THEIR OWN FREE WILL - JOINS THE FOLD OF THE EX-MUSLIMS, SO HE CAN "EXPOSE EVERYTHING", BC HE IS EDUCATED ABOUT ISLAM.
BUT PRESUMABLY THEY ARE ALL ALREADY 'VERY EDUCATED' ABOUT ISLAM!!! #LOL DO THEY WANT SOMEONE TO SPEAK FOR THEM, BECAUSE IN ACTUALITY THEY DON'T HAVE THE WORDS OR ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE ABOUT ISLAM TO SUCCESSFULLY COUNTERACT THE ISLAMIC #DAWAH ??

(THEY WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THE TRUTH, SO THEY CAN TRY TO TWIST WHAT WAS REALLY DONE IN THE PAST, OR WHAT MUSLIMS REALLY BELIEVE!)
(I PREFER NOT TO NAME NAMES, BC I DONT WANT TO PROMOTE HATERS ON YOUTUBE) TO BE FRANK, THOUGH, THEY OBVIOUSLY NEVER KNEW ISLAM IN THE FIRST PLACE, AND QUOTE THE WRITINGS OR SAYING OF EXTREMISTS, NOT MAINSTREAM ISLAMIC IDEAS, LIKE THOSE OF THE MUTAZILITES, AND LINKS CAN BE SEEN IN THEIR DESCRIPTIONS (UNDER THEIR VIDEOS).

EVEN IF A MUSLIM IS SINCERE HE CAN MAKE MISTAKES, AND SO WE DON'T CLAIM THAT MUSLIMS HAVE "PERFECT" KNOWLEDGE ABOUT ISLAM OR THE LIFE OF THE PROPHET, PBUH. WE SHOULD NOT SPECULATE OR GUESS, WITHOUT ANY EVIDENCES FOR WHAT WE ARE SAYING AND WE ALWAYS SAY "ALLAH KNOWS BEST" WHEN WE BLOG OR COMMENT, BECAUSE WE KNOW OUR KNOWLEDGE IS VERY LACKING, INADEQUATE, OR AT BEST, WE ARE INCAPABLE OF KNOWING EVERYTHING AND BECAUSE MAYBE MUCH OF THE FORMER KNOWLEDGE HAS ALREADY BEEN LOST.

IT WAS IN THE CONQUEST BY GENGHIS KHAN THAT IN FACT MANY ISLAMIC BOOKS OR WRITINGS WERE DESTROYED. WE KNOW THIS IS TRUE, THEREFORE ALSO HOW MUCH BENEFICIAL KNOWLEDGE OR THE OPINIONS OF SCHOLARS WERE FOREVER LOST, BEFORE THE TIME OF THE GREAT SULTAN MAHMOUD. HE WAS A ROYAL PRINCE, CAPTURED BY REBELS AND SOLD INTO SLAVERY AS A CHILD, LIVING IN EGYPT AND LATER RESTORED TO HIS POSITION OF NOBILITY, WHO FOUGHT THE FEARED OPPRESSORS AND SMASHED GENGHIS KHAN AND HIS TERRIBLE LEGACY OF BRUTAL FORCE AND DESTRUCTION. SETTING FREE THE SOCIETIES AND LANDS UNDER HIS OWN FREE AND PROSPEROUS CONTROL, IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE ONE, KING OF KINGS, AL JALAL. EVEN CHRISTIANS IN MUSLIM LANDS WOULD CRY FOR SUCH A MAN TO SAVE THEM FROM THE OPPRESSIVENESS OF LIFE, LIVING AS THEY WERE UNDER THE HEAVY BURDEN OF TAXES, AS HAPPENED WHEN SULTAN AHMED TOOK CONSTANTINOPLE. IT IS THE POOR AND DESTITUTE, THE HELPLESS 'BEASTS' TOILING UNDER BURDENS OF SICKNESS, DEBT AND SORROWS WROUGHT BY OPPRESSIVE LEADERS AND TYRANTS WHO HAVE ATTESTED TO THE MERCY AND COMPASSION THAT ISLAM BRINGS IN ITS WAKE!!!

IT'S THE LIARS AND SELFISH ONES WHO HATE SOMETHING AS BEAUTIFUL AND BOUNTIOUS AS ISLAM WHEN IT SHINES FORTH IN IT,S TRUE BRILLIANCE.
NO OPPRESSION OR FORCED CONVERSIONS, ONLY LENIENCY, MERCY AND HUMAN COMPASSION WAS THE SIGN OF THESE TRUE BELIEVERS IN ONE TRUE GOD, THE CREATOR OF ALL CREATION.
BUT PLENTY OF THEM ARE SPEAKING OUT AND SAYING VERY STUPID THINGS! THAT'S WHY IT'S VERY EASY FOR MUSLIMS TO EXPOSE THEM, LIKE I WANT ALSO TO DO. Thus, I FEEL IT'S MY RELIGIOUS DUTY AND MY GREATEST HONOR, WHEN I EXPOSE THEIR LIES. #ALHAMDULILLAH

ALL PRAISE IS TO ALLAH. WE THANK ALLAH FOR GUIDING US, AND WE TRY OUR BEST WHEN WE CAN TO EXPOSE THE LIES AND MACHINATIONS OF THE NON BELIEVERS WHO ARE FIGHTING ISLAM IN WORDS OR DEEDS.

 I BELIEVE ONLY A COUPLE OF THESE EXAMPLES SUFFICE TO SHOW HOW WRONG PPL ARE WHO CLAIM SUCH THINGS.
IN THE END, WE WILL NOT CONVINCE THOSE WHO DO NOT WANT TO BELIEVE. THEY ARE FREE TO BELIEVE WHAT THEY LIKE. BUT WHEN THEY SAY THE ABOVE MENTIONED OR SIMILAR THINGS, IT IS CLEAR TO US THEY ARE SPEAKING OUT OF HATE AND NOT OUT OF ANY REAL LOVE OR COMPASSION.
AND WHY DO THEY BELIEVE THAT ISLAM IS A DANGER TO THE WORLD? THEY ONLY HATE THAT THERE ARE NEW MUSLIMS EVERY DAY - BECAUSE THEY BELIEVE IN WESTERN IDEAS AND HAVE WESTERN MORALS: THEY THINK
THAT THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO FORCE THEIR MORALITY, LAWS AND BELIEFS ON OTHERS (EG. BELIEVERS) 
IN REALITY, IT'S THEY WHO ARE THE OPPRESSORS AND THE ONES WHO WANT TO FIGHT US.

On a high note, I just want to acknowledge the good people out there, fellow human beings who are not haters, who give in kindness and love, charity, or speak a good word, out of a place of natural human goodness and concern. 
God bless you today and every day! 

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